7 Habits of Highly Successful Teens
Habit 5
5. Seek First to Understand, and then to be
Understood
Because most people don’t listen very well, one of
the great frustrations in life is that many don’t feel understood? This habit
will ensure your teen learns the most important communication skill there is:
active listening.
Why is this habit the key to communication? It’s
because the deepest need of the human heart is to be understood. Everyone wants
to respected and valued for who they re—a unique, one-of-a-kind, never-to-be-cloned
individual. People won’t expose their soft middles unless they feel genuine
love and understanding. Once they feel it, however, they will tell you more
than you may want to hear. People don’t care how much you know until they know
how much you care.
Listen with your eyes, heart, and ears. 7 percent
of communication is contained in the words we use. The rest comes from body
language (53 percent) and how we say words, or the tone and feeling reflected
in our voice (40 percent).
Most people are eager to talk and had rather talk
than listen. We have one month and two ears. This means we should listen twice
as much as we talk. Learn to listen and listen to learn.
Listen, really listen, for understanding.
Seek first to understand then to be understood—LISTEN.
CHOOSE THE RIGHT!!!
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